Terrible Twos? Definance? Lack of discipline?

Yep, I am sure it is all three. I'm pretty positive we have let these kids get away with way too much that they believe, "I am in charge" as William would put it. It is very exhausting. I am reading two parenting books right now and am grasping for help. I know Scott and I have both been bad about following through and disciplining correctly. I know the terms, "boys will be boys" and "it's the terrible twos" but I also believe that they have lost respect for us and I don't want this to continue. It may seem funny to read back on some of this one day but right now it is hard. Scott and I have really buckled down the last two days and are trying to gain back the control. I know it is our fault for allowing their actions. Here are some examples of a typical day:

1.

Action: SLAP (Harrison hitting William)

Me: Harrison, please don't hit your brother. That is mean and it hurts him.

Action: SLAP, SLAP

Me: Harrison, if you hit your brother again, you are going to time out.

Harrison: "I want to go to time out." Action: SLAP (Harrison hitting Will)

2.

William: "I just peed on Belle."

Me: "William, why would you pee on Belle. That is mean."

William: "Because I wanted to."

3.

Me: Harrison, please share your gatorade with William

Harrison's action: pouring the gatorade out on the garage floor so William can't have any

4.

Me: Harrison, please be careful with your granola

Harrison's action: Turning the package upside down on purpose.

5. "They" say to get down to the child's level and get them to look in your eye when disciplining them. I do that. I proceed to grab Harrison's head to get him to look at me. He closes his eyes.



These are all things that happened within ONE hour. Imagine the other 23.



Don't get me wrong, I love my babies and they have their good moments. Just lately there has been so much defiance that it is an all day struggle. Harrison is very violent and William truly believes he is the boss. I'm tired.

Lesson Learned

Parenting tip: 1. Never tell your children you are going to ChuckECheese before you evaluate the situation. 2. Never take your children INTO ChuckECheese before evaluating the situation. 3. Never ever take your children OUT of ChuckECheese before getting to play!
So obviously our plan for lunch was to take the boys to ChuckECheese. As we were pulling in the parking lot, William asked where we were going and I told him. That was my mistake. As soon as we walked in, there were probably hundreds of people inside. I never seen a place so packed. There were literally lines for every game/ride. That's not fun to me so we left. Both boys cried as we put them back in their carseats. Talk about feeling like a bad parent. We ended up having lunch at T.G.I.Fridays. The boys were really good and William actually ate all my lunch. Afterwards we went to Kookie Krazy. It is this cute this bakery where you get to chose your dough and mixins. Then you get to "make" your cookies. Or in our case, eat most of the mix ins beforehand.
Before: Then they bake it and afterwards the boys got to decorate even more.
After:

When we got home, William asked me AGAIN about ChuckECheese! Then we all took a nap! How nice. Well actually I couldn't fall asleep. I complain about having William share our bed but isn't this so cute?

It's cute but you get an idea of how he sleeps with us. He has to be touching someone and he about pushes us off of the bed. But at-least he is cute while doing it :)